Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts

Monday, 5 January 2026

Verbal Bullying by John/Take Back Your Life/Self-Confidence/Self-Awareness/Hope/Good Mental Health


 

Verbal Bullying

 

The verbal bullies can be brash and loud,

with their insulting, belittling, arrogant voice.

We may accept what they say in shrunken spirit,

or smile in splendid, disdainful silence for it is choice!

 

John


This subliminal meditation is here.


There is a selection of my art on canvas and other 

mediums available in my

Bonanza Shop here.

 
I have two self-help stories available exclusively on
 Amazon, either on the Kindle or paperback, and I do
 hope that you find them interesting, thought-
provoking, and, most of all, enjoyable: -
 
This simply written short story is aimed at those who
 seek to understand themselves, and through
 understanding themselves comes a greater
 understanding of life. 
 
(as witnessed by his brother)
Much has been written about Jesus, and no matter your
 view on religion or Christianity, this person, whether he
 was as described in the bible or not, has singularly
 shaped, to a greater or lesser extent, the lives we lead
 today through his wisdom. There are many versions of
 the story, but there is only one truth, and is it not
 better to know the truth?
 
You are most welcome to visit my self-help youtube
 

And you will find an excellent read in this story by my son Colin, and it is here.

Wednesday, 8 January 2025

Verbal Bullying

 

Verbal Bullying

 

The verbal bullies can be brash and loud,

with their insulting, belittling, arrogant voice.

We may accept what they say in shrunken spirit,

or smile in splendid, disdainful silence for it is choice!

 

John


This subliminal meditation is here.



There is a selection of my art on canvas

 and other mediums available in my

Bonanza Shop here.

 
I have two self-help stories available exclusively on
 Amazon, either on the Kindle or paperback, and I do
 hope that you find them interesting, thought-
provoking, and, most of all, enjoyable: -
 
This simply written short story is aimed at those who
 seek to understand themselves, and through
 understanding themselves comes a greater
 understanding of life. 
 
(as witnessed by his brother)
Much has been written about Jesus, and no matter your
 view on religion or Christianity, this person, whether he
 was as described in the bible or not, has singularly
 shaped, to a greater or lesser extent, the lives we lead
 today through his wisdom. There are many versions of
 the story, but there is only one truth, and is it not
 better to know the truth?
 
You are most welcome to visit my self-help youtube
 
And you will find an excellent read in this story by my

 son Colin, and it is here.

Sunday, 7 July 2024

To Be Immune To Nit-Pickers


 

To Be Immune To Nit-Pickers

 

I listen to their pointed words,

and sometimes they are quite absurd.

Add to this their ‘you need to do better’ tone,

and then my patience is nearly blown.

Why is it in order for them to feel superior and tall,

that they must nit-pick to make others feel small.

Then I remind myself to breathe deeply and be calm,

for their unrequested input is like computer SPAM!

 

John


This subliminal meditation is here.


There is a selection of my art on canvas

 and other mediums available in my

Bonanza Shop here.

 

I have two self-help stories available exclusively on Amazon, either on the Kindle or paperback, and I do hope that you find them interesting, thought-provoking, and, most of all, enjoyable: -

 

The Rock Philosophy

This simply written short story is aimed at those who seek to understand themselves, and through understanding themselves comes a greater understanding of life. 

 

The Life of Jesus

(as witnessed by his brother)

Much has been written about Jesus, and no matter your view on religion or Christianity, this person, whether he was as described in the bible or not, has singularly shaped, to a greater or lesser extent, the lives we lead today through his wisdom. There are many versions of the story, but there is only one truth, and is it not better to know the truth?

 

You are most welcome to visit my self-help youtube channel Advantage Subliminal

 

And you will find an excellent read in this story by my son Colin, and it is here.

Sunday, 7 April 2024

Overcoming Being A Control Freak


 

Control Freak

 

I demand without care or thought,

that it must be my way, or naught!

To get my way I’ll do whatever it takes,

no matter how small or large the stakes.

Yet what if there is a better, more practical way,

where I lead by positive example, come what may?

 

John

 

 This subliminal meditation is here. 

 


 
 

There is a selection of my art on canvas and other mediums available in my Bonanza Shop here.

 

I have two self-help stories available exclusively on Amazon, either on the Kindle or paperback, and I do hope that you find them interesting, thought-provoking, and, most of all, enjoyable: -

 

The Rock Philosophy

This simply written short story is aimed at those who seek to understand themselves, and through understanding themselves comes a greater understanding of life. 

 

The Life of Jesus

(as witnessed by his brother)

Much has been written about Jesus, and no matter your view on religion or Christianity, this person, whether he was as described in the bible or not, has singularly shaped, to a greater or lesser extent, the lives we lead today through his wisdom. There are many versions of the story, but there is only one truth, and is it not better to know the truth?

 

You are most welcome to visit my self-help youtube channel Advantage Subliminal

 

And you will find an excellent read in this story by my son Colin, and it is here.

 

Friday, 1 December 2023

Karate


 My early Karate days (I am in the middle at the back) and my first competition.


Karate

Ever since I had first seen something resembling the martial arts on television as a boy, I knew I wanted to learn them.  I should say that school life was never easy for from Primary 5 or 6 I became the target of bullies.  It wasn’t that I was a small weak person, far from it, I guess I just wasn’t much of a fighter.  Years later as a Karate Coach I was able to talk to parents who worried about their children at school, and I was also able to talk to the children who trained in my class.  Hopefully I was able to help those who were bullied and perhaps give potential bullies some food for thought when they came to learn Karate with me.  The bad news for parents is that karate doesn’t change the timid person into an aggressive person, at least not in my experience.  What it does do hopefully is help handle situations better and of course aid confidence when one learns that it is possible to defend oneself without being big or having “big” muscles!  I mention this only as a background, I did not start in Karate because I was bullied, the whole thing just fascinated me and to be perfectly honest the martial arts still fascinate me as much now as it did then.  When I first started training, I was 20 years old, Karate clubs or any Martial arts clubs were very few especially living in rural areas.  After some research I heard of a club in Uphall which adjoins Broxburn in West Lothian.  I didn’t want to go on my own, so I discovered that my sister Isabel’s boyfriend at that time, Sam, was interested too.  We went along to the pub where the class was held in the lounge bar twice a week, it was an adult class, very few if any children trained in these days.  We were allowed to watch, I paid particular attention to the exercises thinking I didn’t want to make a fool of myself when I finally went to train properly.  After the class finished Sam and I spoke to the instructor and told him we would be along to train regularly.  I went home and religiously did the exercises I had seen, even sticking my feet under my bed for the stomach exercises until I could do them without support.

 

The big night duly arrived, and Sam and I lined up at the back of the class and then I discovered what that even for all my preparation I was still unprepared, my instructor doubled all the exercises and I had decided that I was going to do them all.  Well, I had to leave the class and run to the toilet where I was promptly sick, totally different being sick through exercise than any other sickness.  I forced myself back and finished the class.  I loved the training however looking back and having trained in other classes, in other styles of Karate, with other Instructors I recognise now that this, with my first instructor, was a dangerous type of coaching and would not be allowed today by the regulatory authority.  The club was not licensed, however that was not important to me at the time.

 

Sam gave up eventually by which time I had become integrated in the club. I was always better with my hands as flexibility with my legs was something I had to work on. 

 

It was shortly after Sam left that our coach organised a weekend camp, staying in tents in a field near a river in Broxburn.  I had just recently purchased my first Karate suit which was a pristine white. During the camp weekend we were crawling through fields which had their share of Cow droppings and we also spent time training in water in the nearby river.  At the end of our first day, I stripped of my wet and dirty Karate suit and got changed for eating and sitting around the campfire.  After good night’s sleep I awoke to find my Karate Suit standing where I had left it. The jacket and trousers standing stiff on their own just looked so funny and strange, it was as if they had a life of their own.

 

After our normal training sessions some of us used to stay behind and do some extra training when the class finished.  One night another person, Jock, practised with me. We faced each other and practised kicks.  Jock protectively covered his groin, at which (having trained longer than him) I told him he had nothing to worry about.  He then relaxed and I practised a very poor side kick which caught him in the groin and had him jump in the air then roll on the floor clutching his vitals.  Frankly I couldn’t stop laughing because it is always funny when you are not the one doing the rolling about! Jock was great though once he recovered, he eventually laughed too, much to my relief.  One major lesson is that you can’t play with fire and not expect to get burned occasionally.  As a coach though you take every precaution to avoid accidents, Karate is a serious sport, but it still provides great fun and adventure. People believe when you achieve your Dan grade (black belt) that is it, you’ve reached that exalted goal! Not so I am afraid, Dan means level, therefore 1st Dan means first level, when you have the tools to start.

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